man this week has sucked

[francesco76ge]

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Well you guys, I guess we mark this as solved. This morning I was going through my phone bill and kept seeing a # pop up and her text was up to 1977. I called the number and it was some dudes voice mail. I left a message, asking that me and the kids would like to know is there having an affair. Never called back. Called her best friend and asked if she had heard of him and she did and knew that martha was the persewer. I seen it on the phone bill, she was calling him. So i called her and told her i knew and thanks for all the effort in us and the kids(4 total 2 from ex wife) Then I canceled her phone :) But ya know what... now that its all in the open me and the kids can start the healing prosses and just start our routine. I dont have to see her for a while because family is going to help with the boys pick up and drop off.

Over all, im so happy I knew not to marry her.

[pete777]

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Glad to hear that you are handling the situation well. Hope that you and the kids are all safe and well.

[tlpalmer01]

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its good that u found this out now..dash says everyone has a fate and that is what intervened...you will be better and find someone in time that u deserve.........

[D/\SH]

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it will still hurt dont get me wrong since i was engaged for a period of time and got cheated on and happened to walk in on the whole thing...... but over time you will realize more and more that everything will be ok and that you will find someone new..... your buddies will push you to go out to the bar and say get you a new girl shake it off, just shrug it off since its gonna keep coming and make sure you dont get too trashed where yo may let down your guard on what you want. just sit back dont forget the good times you teo had together and relax and enjoy life for a while, it made all the difference for em even though children werent involved.

wish you the best of luck my friend.

dashy

[tristan25]

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Glad to hear you found this out and have an answer to it all. Well Im sure she will find out that the grass is not greener on the other side. Sounds like kids and cars to me, cars have helped in the past to keep mind off of bs. If you ever what to bs let me know Ill find the time my friend.

[Megzy]

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Damn bro, sorry u goin through this bullS**T... its a tough situation, and I know u say issue solved... btu id still leave u w/ this peace of advice.... You loved/love her for a reason and at a time she felt that for u to... post partum is a ***** and makes women do some really crazy shit... trust me i know, and chances are, her cheating can be reprecutions as such.... if she aint ready or interested in gettin help or tryna change u gotta let her do her... but as the mother of ur children and out of respect for what she goin through and what yahlll had, stay respectful, as best u can (pain not withstanding) support her through what you can... but u cant wait around for her move on... and do u... through all of this... u may find where ur heart truly belongs and if shes is it, yahll will come back to gether... if its meant to be... and if not, youll find someone truly deserving of you, but ull still be on good term w/ ur babys moms for the sake of ur kids... maybe even be friends cuz she will know ur love was real... i hope u manage to get through this tough time... and like the saying say goes... if u love something let it go... if it comes back its yours...if it dont, it never was!.... your a good dude... and ull get through this....

peace and blessings bro!

[francesco76ge]

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Damn bro, sorry u goin through this bullS**T... its a tough situation, and I know u say issue solved... btu id still leave u w/ this peace of advice.... You loved/love her for a reason and at a time she felt that for u to... post partum is a ***** and makes women do some really crazy shit... trust me i know, and chances are, her cheating can be reprecutions as such.... if she aint ready or interested in gettin help or tryna change u gotta let her do her... but as the mother of ur children and out of respect for what she goin through and what yahlll had, stay respectful, as best u can (pain not withstanding) support her through what you can... but u cant wait around for her move on... and do u... through all of this... u may find where ur heart truly belongs and if shes is it, yahll will come back to gether... if its meant to be... and if not, youll find someone truly deserving of you, but ull still be on good term w/ ur babys moms for the sake of ur kids... maybe even be friends cuz she will know ur love was real... i hope u manage to get through this tough time... and like the saying say goes... if u love something let it go... if it comes back its yours...if it dont, it never was!.... your a good dude... and ull get through this....

peace and blessings bro!

man you are so right on! I've been talking to her best friend that has been talking to her and she said that martha is just as confused as i am and she is going to ask her if she is interested and ready to talk to a couples councelor. And I would like it to. I'm not perfect and ya I brought and have a lot of issues i brought into the relationship and just had them barried. My first wife cheated on me, we worked it out, then she did it again, we worked it out again, then she told me she loved my brother and then left for some other guy. I was done and barried my feelings. Then one of my girlfriends died in a car accident when i was on the phone with her, i barried the pain again. And after a lot of thinking, I dragged old issues into our relationship just as she did with a few she told me about. We both have issues and for the first half of our relationship the world was perfect because we had each other and we loved each other qualities, and we have talked about it in the last week. The balls in her court now for the counceling because I told her friend I'm all in and willing.

[D/\SH]

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man you are so right on! I've been talking to her best friend that has been talking to her and she said that martha is just as confused as i am and she is going to ask her if she is interested and ready to talk to a couples councelor. And I would like it to. I'm not perfect and ya I brought and have a lot of issues i brought into the relationship and just had them barried. My first wife cheated on me, we worked it out, then she did it again, we worked it out again, then she told me she loved my brother and then left for some other guy. I was done and barried my feelings. Then one of my girlfriends died in a car accident when i was on the phone with her, i barried the pain again. And after a lot of thinking, I dragged old issues into our relationship just as she did with a few she told me about. We both have issues and for the first half of our relationship the world was perfect because we had each other and we loved each other qualities, and we have talked about it in the last week. The balls in her court now for the counceling because I told her friend I'm all in and willing.

word thats a great perspective to have right there, keep an open mind and dont let anyone tell you that you are wrong.... you seem like a great dude and im just hours away so if you need anything you got my number..... and also if you need to know some good ones im in counseling right now (not for couples though) and i could ask for some good ones in your area of the state.

[francesco76ge]

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word thats a great perspective to have right there, keep an open mind and dont let anyone tell you that you are wrong.... you seem like a great dude and im just hours away so if you need anything you got my number..... and also if you need to know some good ones im in counseling right now (not for couples though) and i could ask for some good ones in your area of the state.

ya I'm going throught the fazes. In the past I would just say, ok it's done and I'm moving on, but with all of your guys and gals support and thoughts it has really made me think things out and not just go crazy. THANKS SO MUCH!! ya if you could ask, I would appreciate it bro.

[D/\SH]

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ya I'm going throught the fazes. In the past I would just say, ok it's done and I'm moving on, but with all of your guys and gals support and thoughts it has really made me think things out and not just go crazy. THANKS SO MUCH!! ya if you could ask, I would appreciate it bro.

yeah ill ask him and see what he can do name wise for ya

[Megzy]

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man you are so right on! I've been talking to her best friend that has been talking to her and she said that martha is just as confused as i am and she is going to ask her if she is interested and ready to talk to a couples councelor. And I would like it to. I'm not perfect and ya I brought and have a lot of issues i brought into the relationship and just had them barried. My first wife cheated on me, we worked it out, then she did it again, we worked it out again, then she told me she loved my brother and then left for some other guy. I was done and barried my feelings. Then one of my girlfriends died in a car accident when i was on the phone with her, i barried the pain again. And after a lot of thinking, I dragged old issues into our relationship just as she did with a few she told me about. We both have issues and for the first half of our relationship the world was perfect because we had each other and we loved each other qualities, and we have talked about it in the last week. The balls in her court now for the counceling because I told her friend I'm all in and willing.

Yeah man I feel u... we all got our burdens we deal w/ and carry day to day and bring w/ us... in gerneral, so i know how stuff can weigh on relationships... But they say what doesnt kill us makes us stronger, especially if your willing to face it and learn from it, u grow and become better for next time... learn how to make better choices, as well what expected of u etc... Its great that ur open to do w/e u need to do, to grow as and indiviual and for the sake of your relationship... this is whatll help bring yahll back together or whatll make u stonger, beter faster (6 million dollar man)...and have an even better relationship next time... maybe find the one, that we all would be lessed to find bro!

[tlpalmer01]

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the joint counseling if she will go is a great idea, my ex wouldnt go, u will only make yourselves better...