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[D/\SH]

well basically as you all know i have been chilling quite a bit with priscilla and was loving every minute of it. but today i found out after of course i started falling for her that she has a boyfriend she conveniently forgot to tell me about. after all i have just gone through this is a big hit and i dont know what to do or what i am doing wrong. i consider myself the perfect gentleman that will always treat a woman with respect whether it is opening doors, listening to what they have to say, being respectful, in arguments listening to what she has to say than tell her my perspective respectfully, call her just to say hi and to see how their day is going, remembering special oocassions, being part of their intresets and doing those intrests with them, etc.... i just seem to never have luck with the ladies yet and just dont seem to know why. me and pris have always understood eachother and could tell eachother anything even stuff we havent shared with anyone else and than this happened and i dont know what to think and just cant catch a break lately. i feel again as my life is crashing again and there is nothing i can do to stop it.... all day since i have found out i have been in a deep depression and just sitting there thinking about why does this always happen and my friends that are female cant figure it out because they always say i am the guy of all girls dreams and being hot doesnt hurt either..... does anyone have any insight or different look on this because i still cant stop thinking of her and all and it seems as if i will never find the one....... as many know i had a fiance for a while before i walked in on her cheating on me and ****ing one of my best friends at the time. i would really appreciate to here some thoughts on the situation and how to cheer myself up...

Thanks family for always being there for me.

[littledaisy]

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damn...so i guess it just slipped her mind to tell ya huh....odd...but anywho all i can say is that there is someone out there for you...you just have to be patient...sometimes things happen for a reason and well i guess if this happend...then it wasnt meant to be ...like my momma always said..its better to be alone then with bad company...and i totaly understand that it is tough to be alone at times when you need someone to talk to or just cuddle with at times..but you have to be strong...you've come this far and well...just dont look back..keep on movin forward cuz its not whats coming that will hurt you..its your past that brings you down..so keep your head up buddy...we all love you...remember that :)

[elboriyorker]

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well buddy you looking for love in all the wrong places....Being with a female is like messing with an antique...lol..... you have to be careful how you handle it and you have to care for it.Not every antique are alike. Its up to an expert to know the history and can say that it is worth it or not.

I'm going to tell you what mom told me when i was young when the time is right...it will happen dont rush into... to get so deep into the emotion's You're young brotha in due time you'll be ok....Other then that i guess you have to bring out that blowup doll you put away again...hahahhahahaha

[D/\SH]

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damn...so i guess it just slipped her mind to tell ya huh....odd...but anywho all i can say is that there is someone out there for you...you just have to be patient...sometimes things happen for a reason and well i guess if this happend...then it wasnt meant to be ...like my momma always said..its better to be alone then with bad company...and i totaly understand that it is tough to be alone at times when you need someone to talk to or just cuddle with at times..but you have to be strong...you've come this far and well...just dont look back..keep on movin forward cuz its not whats coming that will hurt you..its your past that brings you down..so keep your head up buddy...we all love you...remember that :)

thanks girl and yeah must have slipped the mind. thanks and i will keep my head up just seems weird since i felt things were going better and now they have crashed on me again........

well buddy you looking for love in all the wrong places....Being with a female is like messing with an antique...lol..... you have to be careful how you handle it and you have to care for it.Not every antique are alike. Its up to an expert to know the history and can say that it is worth it or not.

I'm going to tell you what mom told me when i was young when the time is right...it will happen dont rush into... to get so deep into the emotion's You're young brotha in due time you'll be ok....Other then that i guess you have to bring out that blowup doll you put away again...hahahhahahaha

hahahaha pb thanks and might have to do that but im not one to go out and look for it i let it come to me since it will happen when it does happen.... i dont go out looking for it but when i felt all was starting to go well after my last troubles i just went through it seems like they are all starting again..... good to know i got friends that do care here at the site and ones that wont judge me for sharing my thoughts.... means a lot.

[NINE'SICKS]

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damn.. thats some nighty deep stuff u just put out there and i wanna give u mad respect.. i feel u bro, i was in the same situation and as hard as it was i focusd on me and my kids and with out knowing i met the girl im with now.. all i can realy say is EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

[D/\SH]

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damn.. thats some nighty deep stuff u just put out there and i wanna give u mad respect.. i feel u bro, i was in the same situation and as hard as it was i focusd on me and my kids and with out knowing i met the girl im with now.. all i can realy say is EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

true i guess it is better that it happened now than later...... hopefullly i wont let this get to me too much, i know it will be on my mind some since hell i am human and all but yeah it all does happen for a reason and maby i will still find the one :)

Thanks

[Metalmayhem]

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Keep your head up son! Everything will fall in its place when the time comes, don't worry theres tons of woman out there and soon you will find the one. Just keep doing what you do best and god will take care of you.

[D/\SH]

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Keep your head up son! Everything will fall in its place when the time comes, don't worry theres tons of woman out there and soon you will find the one. Just keep doing what you do best and god will take care of you.

thanks just tough after she helped me through my attempted suicide attempt and than she acts as if she was close to me and than does this.... i tried to talk to her about it but she couldnt stop crying and she says she will do it tomorrow.... so im not sure if she was toying with me to bring me up and than crash me down or if what she said was really true... just hard to be brought up like that from such a low and than slammed back down in such a hostile way.

[pete777]

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Dash -

So sorry to hear about your troubles, that just sucks. Have a son going through the same thing right now, unfortunately there is a child involved in the mix, my first grandbaby. I send you the same heartfelt offer I gave my son, "Tell me where she is and I'll go and pound her for you."

In any case, I can tell you that in this line of work that I do, I have become surrogate mother to a lot of people from different walks of life. They see me more than they see their own families, they drive out of their way to come here just to say "Howdy" and chill for a while.

There is a quote on our front window that says, "Don't ask the question if you don't want the truth. You already have the answer, or you wouldn't ask."
With that being said, it's not really anything to do with you, other than your choice in women. What they did to you is no reflection on you, they are just deceitful, conniving, and for lack of a better term, DOGS.

You seem like a really great guy, I know that you help a lot of people and go out of your way to help folks you don't even know. I think that you are just looking.

Having been married 4 times, and countless boyfriends/toys in between, I too thought that there was something wrong with me. I seem to have hooked up with men that all had psychotic exes in their lives. My 3rd husband's ex is certified mentally unstable in TWO states. She has paperwork to say she's sane at this time. One of my good friends works as a manager of a strip club, every girl he dates is playing him for a trick, but he just won't quit dating them. Can't help him, he just doesn't say anything until they leave because he knows what I will tell him.

Quit looking. Quit hoping. Quit bending over backwards to make them happy. It's a relationship. It's a partnership. No two people are going to agree all the time. My husband and I can tell each other to "go *uck off" and it's taken to mean that point in time, not that we don't love each other any more, it's just you are really getting on my nerves, go away for a bit. It's all good, we have discussed it, we get along great. We work together from 2pm to 2am six days a week. We live together, and we still have yet to cause each other permanent bodily injury. LOL. We had both decided we weren't looking to hook up with anyone after our previous relationships died miserable deaths, we just happened upon each other and took it slow and easy. BTW, this May is our 8 year mark.

Seriously, back on point. If you want to worry about anything, making yourself content and happy should be your main focus, you won't make anyone else happy if you're not happy. A lot of these people mistake kindness for weakness, so stick up for yourself.
You deserve to be happy, but no one but you can make you happy.


Hope the rambling helps you. You deserve the best, don't settle.

[D/\SH]

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Dash -

So sorry to hear about your troubles, that just sucks. Have a son going through the same thing right now, unfortunately there is a child involved in the mix, my first grandbaby. I send you the same heartfelt offer I gave my son, "Tell me where she is and I'll go and pound her for you."

In any case, I can tell you that in this line of work that I do, I have become surrogate mother to a lot of people from different walks of life. They see me more than they see their own families, they drive out of their way to come here just to say "Howdy" and chill for a while.

There is a quote on our front window that says, "Don't ask the question if you don't want the truth. You already have the answer, or you wouldn't ask."
With that being said, it's not really anything to do with you, other than your choice in women. What they did to you is no reflection on you, they are just deceitful, conniving, and for lack of a better term, DOGS.

You seem like a really great guy, I know that you help a lot of people and go out of your way to help folks you don't even know. I think that you are just looking.

Having been married 4 times, and countless boyfriends/toys in between, I too thought that there was something wrong with me. I seem to have hooked up with men that all had psychotic exes in their lives. My 3rd husband's ex is certified mentally unstable in TWO states. She has paperwork to say she's sane at this time. One of my good friends works as a manager of a strip club, every girl he dates is playing him for a trick, but he just won't quit dating them. Can't help him, he just doesn't say anything until they leave because he knows what I will tell him.

Quit looking. Quit hoping. Quit bending over backwards to make them happy. It's a relationship. It's a partnership. No two people are going to agree all the time. My husband and I can tell each other to "go *uck off" and it's taken to mean that point in time, not that we don't love each other any more, it's just you are really getting on my nerves, go away for a bit. It's all good, we have discussed it, we get along great. We work together from 2pm to 2am six days a week. We live together, and we still have yet to cause each other permanent bodily injury. LOL. We had both decided we weren't looking to hook up with anyone after our previous relationships died miserable deaths, we just happened upon each other and took it slow and easy. BTW, this May is our 8 year mark.

Seriously, back on point. If you want to worry about anything, making yourself content and happy should be your main focus, you won't make anyone else happy if you're not happy. A lot of these people mistake kindness for weakness, so stick up for yourself.
You deserve to be happy, but no one but you can make you happy.


Hope the rambling helps you. You deserve the best, don't settle.

wow thanks for the share of your personal experiences. i have came to the decision that i will be trying to find some way to get some cash to go to counseling and help better myself at the same time....... with the economy im gonna have to give up a lot in my life to be able to pay for it but i know it will be for the best.... now to finding some stuff that i can sell so i can get the money to do it. Thanks again for the words and the care that you have shown

[Sh0wNuF]

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damn d/\sh i really truly feel for you and I know exactly what you are going through because this has happened to me on quite a few occasions. I spent a year on my first love as just friends and hoping she would like me, I wined and dined her for over a year and she didn't once mention having a boyfriend but was practically engaged the whole year. First I gotta tell you that it is most definitely not you that has a problem but it is the girl(s) with the problem. I have had many sleepless nights wondering what I could have done or changed about myself or the way I acted that would have gotten me the girl and the answer is nothing. In this situation, no matter what type of person you are or how you behave (believe me I'm just as chivalrous as you) will have any impact. You just gotta keep being who you are and doing what you do and the right lady will come along. These other ladies are just stepping stones along the way to finding the right girl, and trust me when you find that right lady that appreciates you for who you are then you will look back and realize that everything you have been through, even the heartache, was most definitely worth it.

Trust me bro, keep your spirits up and just keep being you and you will find happiness

[D/\SH]

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damn d/\sh i really truly feel for you and I know exactly what you are going through because this has happened to me on quite a few occasions. I spent a year on my first love as just friends and hoping she would like me, I wined and dined her for over a year and she didn't once mention having a boyfriend but was practically engaged the whole year. First I gotta tell you that it is most definitely not you that has a problem but it is the girl(s) with the problem. I have had many sleepless nights wondering what I could have done or changed about myself or the way I acted that would have gotten me the girl and the answer is nothing. In this situation, no matter what type of person you are or how you behave (believe me I'm just as chivalrous as you) will have any impact. You just gotta keep being who you are and doing what you do and the right lady will come along. These other ladies are just stepping stones along the way to finding the right girl, and trust me when you find that right lady that appreciates you for who you are then you will look back and realize that everything you have been through, even the heartache, was most definitely worth it.

Trust me bro, keep your spirits up and just keep being you and you will find happiness

thanks and yeah its tough for me though because my senior year of high school many of my friends were heading in the wrong direction so i had to seperate from them so i dont have many people that i can go out with and meet others through... i cant go to the bar or club by myself just seems weird and uncomfortable like this person is just weird to go by themselves..... thanks for the care you have always shown towards me... means more than anyone will ever know.

[imneveral0ne]

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man...I feel for ya bra......what is this girls feel on this boyfriend...are they seeing other people and how does she feel about u man...maybe she wants to drop this guy for you...I mean if most of her time has been with you than thats means she must be ready to leave this guy...

[Sh0wNuF]

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thanks and yeah its tough for me though because my senior year of high school many of my friends were heading in the wrong direction so i had to seperate from them so i dont have many people that i can go out with and meet others through... i cant go to the bar or club by myself just seems weird and uncomfortable like this person is just weird to go by themselves..... thanks for the care you have always shown towards me... means more than anyone will ever know.

haha I know what you mean, I had to "part" with my friends once we graduated and I realized that I wasn't bein me but tryin to be like them to fit in and I won't even go to walmart by myself unless I absolutely have to have something like medicine let alone go to a bar...the reason all of us care so much about you bro is because even though we have never met face to face you have helped supported all of us, and not just with our phones, but with family/personal crisis', random talk, dances, or even just sharing jokes with everyone and whatever lady you end up with will be extremely lucky because I can't imagine the devotion you will give to someone you care about when you are so devoted to a bunch(mostly :-D) of strangers on the internet. Good luck bro

[D/\SH]

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man...I feel for ya bra......what is this girls feel on this boyfriend...are they seeing other people and how does she feel about u man...maybe she wants to drop this guy for you...I mean if most of her time has been with you than thats means she must be ready to leave this guy...

right i did talk to her a little ago finally and the thing is we did mess around and ive been cheated on in the past by my ex fiance and a couple past gf's. in my book once a cheat always a cheat.... she should have told me she was with this guy and how she felt and if she means what she said and she wanted to be with me she should have broke the ties with him and not cheated... i ownt ever be able to date her..... i will still be friends since i do care about her still but i will never be able to feel the exact same about her...... cant just leave someone behind that i did and do care about for something like this... hell i even talk to my ex finace from time to time.

haha I know what you mean, I had to "part" with my friends once we graduated and I realized that I wasn't bein me but tryin to be like them to fit in and I won't even go to walmart by myself unless I absolutely have to have something like medicine let alone go to a bar...the reason all of us care so much about you bro is because even though we have never met face to face you have helped supported all of us, and not just with our phones, but with family/personal crisis', random talk, dances, or even just sharing jokes with everyone and whatever lady you end up with will be extremely lucky because I can't imagine the devotion you will give to someone you care about when you are so devoted to a bunch(mostly :-D) of strangers on the internet. Good luck bro

thanks that does mean quite a bit to me and hopefully that day will come